It is my burning desire that each and every child (and adult) learn how to use affirmations to create happiness, self worth, love and peace. It’s never too early or too late to use positive affirmations to change your life and your children’s life for the better. Even if you believe that your child is already prospering well, learning to use positive affirmations in their daily routine can only help them soar even higher. However, it all starts with us, the parents, to teach them about positive affirmations.
For those of you who are not familiar with the benefits of positive affirmations, I will explain what I’ve come to know and witness with instilling them in not only my life, but my children’s lives as well. First I will explain what an affirmation is and how powerful they can be when used correctly.
Affirmations are actually anything we say or think. Unfortunately, a lot of what we say and think is rather negative and in return can produce negative experiences for us. For example, on the days that I start to question my ability of being a great parent, if I start thinking: ‘I am no good at this parenting thing,’ I’ve noticed that the rest of my day will show me through experiences, that my thought is true. However, when I change my way of thinking to ‘You are an excellent and amazing parent,’ the rest of my day will provide me with confirmations of exactly that too! We really have to dig deep and retrain our minds and the way we think and speak by using a more positive approach if we want to change our lives for the better.
Actually, most of our self-talk is a bunch of affirmations. Whether you believe it or not, you are confirming your life and what you believe about your life, with every single thought and every single word, good OR bad. This self-talk we are having with ourselves all day is very important. It directly affects our conscious and subconscious mind. If we start paying more attention to our thoughts, we can begin to eliminate the thoughts that are creating experiences that we do not want and replace them with positive thoughts (or affirmations) that make us feel good.
So, by doing positive affirmations, we are consciously choosing words to help create something new in our life or eliminate and dissolve something in our life. Affirmations are not something we can do once a day and see change overnight. We have to use them throughout our day so that it becomes part of our daily routine. By doing this, we are creating this positive pattern with our thoughts so that the negative thoughts actually start to lessen (because there is not much room left for them to enter).
It is very important that affirmations are always in the present tense; such as, “I feel great!” Rather than “I want to feel great.” It is vital that we tell our subconscious mind that we already have what we want. Affirmations help the mind achieve what it can believe!
I like to wake up (and go to bed) saying a few things of what I am grateful for to start my day off right! Even if it is as simple as being grateful for having a bed to sleep in each night! Start there, start anywhere that creates a feeling that makes you feel good! Try saying, “Today is going to be a great day! There will be time for everything I need to do today!” I like to say mine out loud, because then I actually hear myself saying it and it becomes more real and believable to me. If you are somewhere in public and need to say your affirmation silently, do so, because that is better than not doing it at all.
Also, try and put some feeling into your affirmation! This helps our mind believe what we are affirming. Just like when we say, “I am scared. I don’t think I can get through this.” Our feelings of fear creep in and this is how we can create a negative experience for ourselves…because so much emotion is put into the thought of doubt and fear. Whereas if we affirm, “I am safe. Everything will work out perfectly. I can get through this easily” and we say it over and over, we start to really put feeling into it and this helps our minds “believe” it.
The change will not come overnight…but if we are consistent and make the choice to think thoughts that only bring us good feelings, the positive changes will begin to happen. Just like anything else we are trying to achieve, it takes hard work and maybe some bumps along the way. Be patient with yourself. When we start to veer off course, just acknowledge it and get back on track. Even just acknowledging that we have “wandered” the wrong direction with our thoughts is a great sign that we are changing for the better!
You can choose to change your way of thinking today and begin to teach your children how to use positive affirmations with you! I actually introduced affirmations to our children by making an “Affirmation Can.” See my blog post about “The Affirmation Can” and fun ways to get your kids excited about using affirmations. Our kids choose an affirmation out of the can every morning so we can start the day off right by training their minds to think positively. Then, throughout the day, we ask them to repeat their affirmation for the day.
Most days, they will come tell us how they were able to actually use that affirmation for something that happened to them that day. Even on the days that they may have not needed to implement it, it is still teaching them how to work through their doubt, fear, anxiety, sadness or just a little obstacle they bumped into that day. Our kids are always so excited to choose an affirmation each day. Sometimes they even ask me to give them their affirmation before we get down to the breakfast table and pick them out.
Our oldest son told me that he used his affirmation that he had that day in order to achieve the goal he wanted to achieve with his baseball game. Our middle son, who is only 4, amazes me every day at how he actually understands the affirmation and will even give me examples of how he can use it throughout his day. For example, today his affirmation was, “I always listen to my inner wisdom” I did have to explain it to him and once I did, he said this, “Like if something doesn’t feel right, I won’t do it, but if I my heart says to share with Griffin, then I should share.” Tada!!! I smile just thinking about that moment this morning!
I believe it is so important that we teach our children how to “choose” the right thoughts from an early age. Just think of the love and peace we would have all over the world if every child was taught the importance of doing daily, positive, affirmations! They truly can create miracles!