Day 4 of The 21-day Affirmation Cleanse–forgiveness
Today’s Cleansing Affirmation:
I LOVINGLY FORGIVE AND RELEASE EVERYTHING IN MY PAST. I CHOOSE TO FILL MY LIFE WITH JOY.
I used to have such a hard time letting go of my past. Whether it be, my childhood house and the sadness I felt for so long from having to move from there, or letting go of my old beat up car that was my “first car” that carried so many fond memories. Until recently, I used to have a hard time letting go of what someone said or “did” to me. What I didn’t realize then, was that holding onto that sadness of moving from my most favorite house or the anger and hurt of how that person treated and betrayed me, was truly only hurting…me.
I’m not probably telling you anything you haven’t heard already. I’m simply reminding you that we are the only one who can change the way we feel. If we want to stay in the feeling of anger, resentment, sadness for what was or what used to be, than that is up to us. That is how most experiences will continue to feel for us…until we decide to let go and move on.
In the movie, The Empire Strikes Back, there is a scene where Luke has just met Yoda for the first time in Yoda’s swamp. Luke is very uncertain of where he is, (on many different levels) and what to do next, (possibly finding his purpose?) and what the future holds. I love what Yoda has to say to him about his feelings (which are coming from his thoughts) about “what is around the corner,” and in this case, a large tree and cave of the unknown.
Luke: There’s something not right here… I feel cold. Death.
Yoda: [points to a cave opening beneath a large tree] That place… is strong with the dark side of the Force. A domain of evil it is. In you must go.
Luke: What’s in there?
Yoda: Only what you take with you.
My understanding of this scene is that although we may be afraid to move forward, or to deal with someone who has caused us pain and/or betrayed us; it is important that we remember that we are the only ones who can change how we are going to let that person or that situation effect our future and the new experiences that lie ahead.
Remember, it is usually in the difficult and most challenging times that we grow and learn the most. Sometimes we are like Luke, and have to enter the dark cave to learn our lessons. However, if we remember to take our faith, knowing that God’s love finds us even in the darkest places, AND an attitude of “what can I learn from this situation,” it will catapult us out of this cave even stronger than when we arrived.
My grandmother used to say, “It is not what happens to you in life, it is how you react to what happens to you that truly matters.” We can decide to be the victim or take the victory route. My parents taught me, my sister and brother to always take the high road in any circumstance that happens to us. I didn’t understand until recently how taking the high road was truly the only “choice” which resulted in my own happiness. Had I stayed angry at the person who did me “wrong,” was my anger truly doing anybody any good? No. In fact, it was only hurting one person in the situation and that one person was me. I can move forward more easily with my life, if I let go of the past and what was “done to me.”
Like Yoda told Luke about his worries about the cave and what may be in his ‘future,’
“Only what you take with you.”
Are you ready to let go of your past that is causing you pain, heartache, anger? Are you ready to choose faith and to choose happiness and move forward? Here are some suggestions to help you get started:
Homework: Write this affirmation down 5 times in your journal. Also, say this affirmation 5 times now and 5 times while you get ready for bed this evening. This time, I want you to visualize the person or the situation which is or has caused you much pain, difficulty to move forward, or sadness. Now, picture yourself sending that person love as you say today’s affirmation: I lovingly forgive and release everything in my past. I choose to fill my life with joy. (This affirmation can be said in your mind or out loud while you visualize letting go of the past). If you happen to pass a mirror between now and the end of the day, look in the mirror and say this affirmation for extra credit!
Children’s affirmation of the day: I look forward to new experiences with each new day.